The impacts of being lied to are FAR more severe than we ever thought. If you have been lied to, chances are this is impacting you much more than you realize. The good news is, this is not your fault and you can start healing from it!
Let’s talk through what the impacts of being lied to are how to heal from them. I will give some tips on how to start moving forward, whether you stay in the relationship or not.
Our partners cheating on us or keeping a serious secrets literally can cause us trauma. I refer to this kind of trauma as betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma can bring on PTSD symptoms like loss of interest, down mood, depression, negative thoughts, anxiety, difficult sleeping, reliving the event or disclosure, hyper vigilance, anger, self doubt and sometimes thoughts of self harm or suicide. I say these not to scare you, but to tell you that you are not only, nor crazy if you have experienced these symptoms after your partners confession. Many people experience this and don’t know how to get through it. They wonder why they can’t forgive their partner and move on. They wonder if they will every be able to . They wonder if there is something wrong with them. All of these are normal (and awful) parts of Betrayal Trauma that can be worked through.
I am here to support you through this. If you have questions or need some support, please reach out to me. Betrayal trauma is not something you can or should have to got through alone!